Trevor Thompson, DMin, MA, LMFTA
Psychotherapy and Counseling
Services Offered
It takes time to work together to create greater self-understanding, deep change to entrenched beliefs and behaviors, and restoration of connection in relationships. One thing that has been clear to me in my work in the helping professions is that, despite what we are told, human beings need support and connection in order to heal and grow. I believe that our struggles and sorrows can be holy ground. I am here to accompany you in this work.
I see individuals, couples, and families for virtual or in-person therapy.
Couples Therapy
Intimate relationships are a rich source of meaning and joy in life, but they also take work to tend to the complex dynamics. It feels especially cruel when the one we love feels like our greatest enemy.
Couples therapy is helpful and worthwhile during any stage of your relationship, whether you’re just coming out of the honeymoon phase, starting to encounter significant conflicts, looking for a renewed sense of intimacy, or making one last effort at saving the relationship.
Although some couples wait until they are in crisis to come to therapy, there is no time like the present to address issues of concern and enhance the connection between partners.
Infidelity, resentment, problems related to sex and intimacy, miscommunication, codependence, and loss of meaning in relationships are all common topics in couples work. Couples therapy can help accompany and guide you through difficult conversations that you’ve not been able to have.
Romantic relationships are also often great revealers of unprocessed stuff we bring into the relationship. Couples work is a great opportunity to ask deeper questions about the core issues causing tension and conflict, whether that is your patterns of communication, boundary making, or unfulfilled expectations and desires in your relationship. My couples work is informed by Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), the Gottman Method, and elements of psychoanalytic theory.
I work with couples of diverse ages, sexualities, religions, and cultures to help restore connection and trust in relationships. You can experience more fulfillment in your life and relationships.
Individual Therapy
I offer individual psychotherapy, both short-term issue-focused work and longer-term depth work. In the initial sessions, we will work together on identifying your priorities and goals and the scope of therapy. I will offer you a supportive space to explore whatever it is that you bring up.
Often, you will desire practical tools to cope with specific problems, such as anxiety, miscommunication in relationships, and addiction. Although there are not usually simple answers and solutions to complex problems, therapy, nevertheless, offers immediate opportunities to learn and practice new skills. Coming to therapy will help you acquire fresh perspective and better tools to manage your current situation.
You might also feel stuck in certain patterns and want more insight on how to understand, accept, and integrate those parts of yourself. When those parts are filled with shame, this is not easy work. Yet, the most shadowy elements of our soul often have the most to say to us. So too, it is common to feel like your past experiences are affecting your present state of mind. Although the past cannot be changed, therapy has the capacity to calm the nervous system enough to support a process of recovery, increased mindfulness, and meaning-making of our past.
I approach every issue, image, idea, feeling, and symptom with curiosity and compassion. In my psychodynamic and Jungian-informed practice, I like to bring an element of wonder about the deeper meaning of our lives. Given all that has happened, what does the soul want to say?
Therapy works best when you and I share a collaborative process, and you feel a growing sense of your own agency about your life.
Family Therapy
Family therapy supports family members to gain perspective and skills in order to improve communication, deepen connections, differentiate self from other, and address concerns that are preventing the family from reaching its goals and dreams.
Common issues brought to family therapy include marital problems, such as infidelity or the decision to divorce; financial concerns; mental illness; substance abuse; differing values or opinions (religious, political, or otherwise); trauma and other adverse experiences; parenting styles and conflicts; and concerns about children and adolescents. Families go through seasons that require constant transition, adjustments, and processing. Each family has to navigate its unique terrain. Although there are many books that offer guidance on these topics of family life, I am here to offer you specialized support to help your family find its way.
When we do our work together in family therapy, It is important to take time to thoroughly understand the context surrounding the presenting issue as well as each family member’s relationship to it.
Because families come in all shapes and sizes, I want to get to know the families I work with well, namely the relational dynamics, enduring patterns, belief systems, rituals, and other factors that may be related to the growth and persistence of the presenting issue.
The nature of family life raises all kinds of triggers and can feel overwhelmingly complex to manage the many feelings, expectations, and needs. Family therapy’s greatest gift is that it creates a safe space for family members to find their voice, points of view, hopes, dreams, and experiences so that the family can (re)find a way to work together as a team.